Realistic Positivity
For the longest time, I tried to stay positive about everything. No matter how challenging the situation that arose, I would try to find the positive aspects and focus on those, while disregarding some of the negative aspects of these situations. And for the longest time, it worked.
But then, after a doing this for a while, this consistent positive thinking began to take a toll on me. I realized that it was draining to always keep up this positive attitude for many reasons:
- First, so many people like to complain about things and get pessimistic. Of course I complain as well, just like everyone else. However, I typically reserve this behavior for environments that I feel safe and comfortable in (with close friends, family, etc.).
- Also, there are times when positivity is not always the best approach to take. For example, if I am in a dangerous environment, merely thinking about the best outcome will not simply make it happen. In the video above, the narrator talks about our ancestors seeing a bear, and how they needed to act, not just think that everything would be okay.
- Finally, keeping a constant positive attitude does not provide any conflict. While conflict is not necessary for every situation, providing feedback (even negative feedback) will typically help to ensure the best outcome.
During Winter Training of this past year, after I was starting to feel particularly drained from always remaining positive, I decided that I want to try incorporating a new outlook on life; realistic positivity. When I recently came across the video above and saw the concept of ‘realism,’ it reminded me of my concept of realistic positivity. To me, realistic positivity is accepting the fact that it’s not possible to always be positive. There are going to be plenty of times where negativity surrounds us, or a situation where staying positive may not be the best outcome. Realistic positivity is a hybrid between embracing realism and positivity.
Therefore, I will try to remain positive through most situations. However, I will not deny negative thoughts or feelings, as conflict can lead to a better outcome. So by acknowledging negativity, I will be figuring out a better way of handling a situation, and getting more out of the situation.
What do you do to stay positive? Do you have any tricks or things you like to do to keep things in perspective? And how do you incorporate negativity into work on a daily basis?